How to Decide if a Therapist is the Right Fit for You

Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re already dealing with anxiety, stress, and overwhelm- some of the many reasons you may have found your way to this blog! Therapy is a personal journey, and just like choosing your friends or your partner, it is important to find someone you may work well with. Here are a few ways to tell if your therapy experience is on the right path.

1. You Feel Heard and Understood

One of the most important signs that a therapist fits your needs is how well they listen to you. Therapy is about sharing your thoughts and feelings openly. If your therapist makes you feel heard without judgment, that’s a strong indicator you’re in the right place. This starts with the phone consultation! You may listen to see if:

• The therapist asks questions that show they are paying attention to your story.

• The therapist describes their style in a way you understand and makes sense with what you are looking for

• To quote my younger clients, there is a good "vibe"- you see potential in building trust and comfort.

Keep in mind, like any relationship, trust takes time so if you get good early feelings, it may be worth while scheduling a first session to see how it goes and what can build.

2. You Feel Comfortable (or comfortable enough) Sharing Personal Details

Therapy requires vulnerability. If you feel uneasy or tense every time you meet your therapist, it might be harder to open up and make progress. The right therapist creates a safe space where you can share your worries, grief or anxieties.

• You don’t feel rushed or pressured to talk.

• The therapist respects your pace and boundaries.

• You feel a sense of trust developing over time.

  
  

Feeling comfortable doesn’t mean you won’t feel challenged at times, but it means you feel supported even when facing difficult topics.

3. You Notice Positive Changes Over Time

Okay, so you made it in and are now in the mix of therapy. Now what? Therapy is a process, and it takes time to see results. However, if you notice small improvements in how you handle stress, communicate with others, or manage your emotions, it’s a good sign your therapist’s approach works for you or your child.

Choosing a therapist is a personal decision, and it’s okay to try a few before finding the right match. Trust your feelings about the relationship and the progress you make. Therapy should feel like a partnership where you grow and heal at your own pace.

If you’re unsure about your current therapy, consider discussing your concerns openly with your therapist or seeking a consultation with another professional. Your mental health deserves the right support.